Fuck Purity Culture

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I grew up very religious and hating my body, both inextricably connected. Little me was so disconnected to my body, to myself as a whole. I didn’t even know what sensuality or eroticism meant for the longest time, except that it was bad.

As an adult, it was important to me to work on not hating my body. At least try!

I hired several boudoir photographers any chance I could. With the right photographer, I felt powerful, I felt in touch with my body, and I felt sexy. Not just sexy for someone else, but sexy for me.

Boudoir has been a place to experience my body through someone else’s perspective. We are our own worst critics. When we talk about our bodies, it’s often to complain about changing mobility, hurt joints or other changes.

Boudoir is a space to honor and have gratitude for how much my body has been through.

Boudoir has never been about performing or pretending to be sexy. The process of boudoir has been to reconnect with my body, to honor how far I’ve come with my body, and to feel present and grateful for my body. Boudoir is dedicated space to thank my body.

I am as healed today, in large part, because of the boudoir sessions I’ve done.

If you’re also a millennial who grew up being told our bodies are meant to be shameful, ooof. I feel you.

And. Shame wants us to hide. The act of being perceived - in safe places with safe people - is one of the most powerful ways to shut down those shame messages telling us to hide.

We don’t heal in isolation. When it comes to body image, we need to be seen in safe places with safe people. With the right photographer, you will look good.